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Wow,thanks for writing this post you sure opened my eyes on a few things and gave me some positive steps to take with my grandkids when they get upset…seems it happens more that when my kids were young. I thought this was a great article on how to handle your child when times get rough… They are obviously being defiant for a reason. Your email address will not be published. Remind yourself that, realistically, most kids don't follow instructions now and then; they may be asserting their independence a natural part of growing up or may simply be distracted by an interesting sight or activity.
Decide that the next time you have that thought you'll take a deep breath, count to 10, and tell yourself, "This isn't a war. I'm not going to get angry. You need to teach your child to recognize and understand his emotions and guide him toward acceptable ways of letting anger, fear, and disappointment show. These tips can help:. Make an appointment with your child's doctor if the techniques above don't make a difference, or if your child's aggressive behavior is making it difficult for him to participate in school, family, or other activities.
Your pediatrician may refer you to a child psychologist or psychiatrist, who can assess your child for a learning disability as well as emotional or behavioral problems that sometimes set off aggressive behavior.
Depending on what problems are uncovered, treatment may include behavioral therapy, a specialized instructional approach in school, family counseling, or even prescription drugs. Some of the medications used to decrease disruptive behavior, as well as impulsiveness and distractibility, are -- counterintuitively -- stimulants. Other classes of drugs, such as antidepressants, hypertension medications, and anticonvulsants, may also be used.
But responses to these drugs vary; your pediatrician or child's therapist can help you decide if this option is right for your child. For example, even though some doctors prescribe antidepressants to children, the FDA warns that such drugs may increase suicidal tendencies in young people. Other drugs like stimulants, such as Ritalin, have been found to significantly suppress growth, according to a study presented at the Pediatric Academic Societies Meeting in Don't forget to get some help for yourself, too, whether it's individual counseling, a support group, or just frequent heart-to-hearts with your friends.
Dealing with aggression in your child is unsettling and demands great patience. Look after yourself, and you can be a steady source of support and guidance for your child. American Academy of Child and Adolescent Psychiatry. Facts for Families: Conduct Disorders. Facts for Families: Fighting and Biting. Children and Watching TV. National Alliance on Mental Illness.
Childrens Hospital Boston. Acquire the license to the best health content in the world. December 31, Aggression, Ages 6 to My child hits, kicks, and lashes out at other kids. Essential Meaning of belligerent. Full Definition of belligerent.
Other Words from belligerent belligerent noun. Choose the Right Synonym for belligerent belligerent , bellicose , pugnacious , quarrelsome , contentious mean having an aggressive or fighting attitude.
Belligerent , Belligerents , and Belligerence Belligerent may function as either an adjective or a noun. Examples of belligerent in a Sentence … it took very little alcohol to make him belligerent , and he became even more thuggish and incoherent when he threw in a few sleeping pills as well. Nothing irritates a coot like another coot … — Kenneth Brower , Smithsonian , December Instead, we revered the guys on the streets, the thugs who were brazen and belligerent. They wore their hats backwards, left their belt buckles unfastened and shoelaces untied.
Tuchman , The First Salute , He was drunk and belligerent. Recent Examples on the Web Nicole Coleman, 33, an administrator who drove in from Modesto for the game, said both Giants and Dodgers fans were equally belligerent at times. Wu, The Atlantic , 20 July These example sentences are selected automatically from various online news sources to reflect current usage of the word 'belligerent.
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